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     My miseries started when Mom married Dad! I was destined to fall into the social relations hell! Me and every Saudi girl! Here’s one story that happened about a week ago.

     My cousin, who’s the same age as I am, got engaged last year. It was pretty obvious she’s getting married this summer. Unfortunately, we didn’t know the exact time, because of the I-will-tell-everyone-the-date-of-my-marriage-a-week-before-so-no-one-get-the-time-to-prepare-a-dress-prettier-than-mine phobia! This phobia is very common in Saudi Arabia. In my opinion it’s just a way of reducing the number of people attending the wedding! Anyways, this time it was exactly a week before the wedding. I was in Riyadh having my finals, minding my own business, when my sister gave me the call. I said “No way I’m going to this wedding! I have nothing to wear!” Of course, there’s no “No” when it comes to family weddings, specially family weddings where battles of invitation cards, dresses and old grudes are involved! My uncle’s wife never wanted us to attend her daughter’s wedding, despite the fact we’re close relatives and her daughter spent her childhood in our house. So, she called and asked if we want to go to the wedding. We said yes and that’s it! She didn’t sent us anything! Mom got angry –you couldn’t blame her; she’ll be having a hard time with her brother. She waited till the night before the wedding and the evil witch aka my uncle’s wife :p still hasn’t sent anything. So, Mom talked to her, gave her some words to think about and got her invitation card just like a stranger! What was my uncle’s wife excuse? “You’re part of the family. You don’t need cards!” Yeah, I bet our names are registered at the security as family members, right? THEY WEREN’T! Mom said I should definetly attend this wedding no matter what. All of us should be there to foil this evil witch’s plan! Bwhahahahaha! *horror music* =P

     I was bored and didn’t want to go, but the fact that she made this evil plan just to prevent us from coming made me angry. I looked up a dress I wore before. It was still pretty so I wore it. I didn’t have time to dye my hair so I chose a cute haircut and that was it. I felt pretty that day XD Because the last time I went to a wedding was like a year ago! We went there, Mom just kept telling anyone she knows about what her sister-in-law did and how her plan backfired at her~ I was enjoying a little chat with old friends and relatives. In all, the wedding was… so… normal? The wedding hall was very fancy and only riches could afford it, but the decoration was so childish I almost thought we’re attending Barbie’s wedding XD Everything was in pink and white. Even the chairs where the bride and the groom were supposed to sit on (aka Kosha) was white! WTH? How can I distinguish the bride from the rest of the Kosha if it was white? I honestly thought that since the Kosha is white, my cousin will wear another color. Anyways, one of my aunts, whose daughter is going to marry this summer too, saw me! Yet again I got entangled into this social events web! Now I HAVE to attend this wedding, which I didn’t, not because I didn’t want to, but because I really didn’t have anything to wear + I was fasting and got really tired I love my aunts and their daughters, and the fact that I missed the wedding will make me look like I don’t care about them~ There’s also consequences to this single wedding I missed; if I attend another wedding of a daughter of another aunt, it would look like I hate that aunt and her daughters! :X So, to clear this mess, I decided not to attend any close relatives wedding this summer plus if I met my aunt, I have to apologize to her. I don’t want any troubles.

     You see how a single wedding caused me troubles the whole summer? I can’t believe how much intolerant Saudi women can get when it comes to social parties. I frankly believe there’s a blacklist that a woman keeps to list all the women who somehow failed to invite her to their parties, were late to invite her or did not attend one of her parties when they were invited!

     I really want to talk more but this is like the longest post I’ve written so far in this blog. I’ll try to write more about other portraits of Saudis’ life in my future posts.

Tags: family, life, party, Saudi, wedding

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